Relationship column number 2

The other day was talking to my mom and her fiancee on the back porch- which is something that happens a lot in my family, it seems the back porch and the dining room table are our major talking forums- and we were talking about finding the right person.

Dave, my mom's fiancee, says "Look Morg I found your mom, sure I'm 37 but hey I found the right person for me! So will you!"

Ok does anyone else see a problem with this particular piece of encouragement??

Perhaps that it took him 37 years to find the love of his life!

I don't know about you guys but I'm not particularly inclined to wait that long, I mean my patience is good but I'm not the angel of patience(if there even is such a thing) if you know what I mean.

But that whole discussion brought up the age old question in my mind and here it is:

How do you know when you have found "the one"??

Sure it sounds like something Carry Bradshaw would say, but honestly I don't care how many people have asked this question before because as of yet I haven't heard a reliable answer for it!

In my entire life I have not heard anyone give a three step process for figuring out if the love in your life is in fact the love of your life, and I have heard a heck of a lot of three step process speeches in my short life.

So what is the trick?

I mean it seems we have tons of deciphering techniques for a lot of things, there are books that tell you if "He's Just Not that Into You" there are books for all different kind of dummies, but I certainly do not want to be the next in line to buy "True Love For Dummies" if that even exists.

So here is: I think, as I know you are all dying to hear yet another of my opinions :)

I think that if you are in love you know it.There is no convincing yourself you are in love when it is the real deal.

Also I have heard that if you are "meant to be" things aren't hard, like you don't constantly check your phone to see if they texted you yet because you haven't heard from them today.To paraphrase from one of the aforementioned love deciphering tools, if he likes you he will call or text or something. Do you honestly think the love of your life is going to keep you hanging?

Another thing I have heard is that love finds you when you give up. When you finally recognize that you suck at trying to find yourself love, that is when stupid cupid shows up.

So to wrap up our three step solution for your loveless love life ;) here is a review:

1. Remember lying is a sin even if you do it to yourself:)

2.Love is not actually supposed to be a battlefield so stop making it so hard on yourself.

3.Cupid likes his victims unprepared to put the binoculars away.