Relationship column number 2

The other day was talking to my mom and her fiancee on the back porch- which is something that happens a lot in my family, it seems the back porch and the dining room table are our major talking forums- and we were talking about finding the right person.

Dave, my mom's fiancee, says "Look Morg I found your mom, sure I'm 37 but hey I found the right person for me! So will you!"

Ok does anyone else see a problem with this particular piece of encouragement??

Perhaps that it took him 37 years to find the love of his life!

I don't know about you guys but I'm not particularly inclined to wait that long, I mean my patience is good but I'm not the angel of patience(if there even is such a thing) if you know what I mean.

But that whole discussion brought up the age old question in my mind and here it is:

How do you know when you have found "the one"??

Sure it sounds like something Carry Bradshaw would say, but honestly I don't care how many people have asked this question before because as of yet I haven't heard a reliable answer for it!

In my entire life I have not heard anyone give a three step process for figuring out if the love in your life is in fact the love of your life, and I have heard a heck of a lot of three step process speeches in my short life.

So what is the trick?

I mean it seems we have tons of deciphering techniques for a lot of things, there are books that tell you if "He's Just Not that Into You" there are books for all different kind of dummies, but I certainly do not want to be the next in line to buy "True Love For Dummies" if that even exists.

So here is: I think, as I know you are all dying to hear yet another of my opinions :)

I think that if you are in love you know it.There is no convincing yourself you are in love when it is the real deal.

Also I have heard that if you are "meant to be" things aren't hard, like you don't constantly check your phone to see if they texted you yet because you haven't heard from them today.To paraphrase from one of the aforementioned love deciphering tools, if he likes you he will call or text or something. Do you honestly think the love of your life is going to keep you hanging?

Another thing I have heard is that love finds you when you give up. When you finally recognize that you suck at trying to find yourself love, that is when stupid cupid shows up.

So to wrap up our three step solution for your loveless love life ;) here is a review:

1. Remember lying is a sin even if you do it to yourself:)

2.Love is not actually supposed to be a battlefield so stop making it so hard on yourself.

3.Cupid likes his victims unprepared to put the binoculars away.

Morgan's Relationship Collumn ;)

Yes I do have a life!!!

Its a pretty darn good one too!

But has anyone else noticed that the single life can get... well... lonely???

Oh goodness that's so common its like has anyone else noticed that they breathe oxygen??

Or have you noticed that when you fall it hurts??

But its true most of us occasionally feel that tiny twinge of loneliness on every other Tuesday of the third month of every other year right??

Haha so its a little more often than that... ok its a few times a week.... I'm not admitting to any more than that! :)

But really I have a question for everyone and here it is :

Were we designed to live life in some sort of coupling formation, or is that something that stems from a deficiency inside us??

Because I do not want to believe that because I would rather be in a relationship than single at this point in my life that something is wrong with me.

However I do accept the obvious fact that if someone cannot function without being in a relationship that there is something wrong.

So where is that delicate balance between being healthy and wanting a relationship, and being unhealthy and needing a relationship??

I for one do not need a relationship.

I only know this because I have only spent roughly 2 to 3 months of my life in a dating relationship.

Honestly I didn't like it all that much so I quit much like one would quit their first job at a fast food joint.

But really we all know those people who always seem to be in a relationship! or at least "talking" to someone.

That's one thing I hate!! When someone says to me "Yeah I have been 'talking' to this guy for about a month now" my personal vote is that a) it needs a new term because I can't stand the current one and b) If he still hasn't asked you out in a month of "talking" then he isn't worth your time deary.

Back to my point I think the line between the "healthy"(sorry for all the quote marks just feeling a little quote happy) desire for a relationship and the unhealthy need for one is semi-vague.

It does seem however that there is a knowledge that the line really exists because in the gossip circle you'll hear the undercurrent of disapproval when girls are constantly leap frogging from one guy to the next. (I just made up that term leap frogging it means when a girl or a guy sets up another relationship before they jump ship on the first one. I personally find this practice tacky and definitely unhealthy for all three parties involved.)

When it comes to wanting a relationship here is how I define healthy : A strong person confident in who they are and who wants someone to share stuff like movies and bad chinese food with.

Unhealthy defined is : An insecure person seeking to complete themselves by finding someone to fill in their cracks.

Ode to Butterflies

My stomach is in a knot.

Not sure what I've got.

Can't wait to find out,

Just what this is all about.

My heart feels light.

Everyday seems so bright.

Hahahahaha ryhming is so ridiculous!!!!!!!!

Somewhere in the Middle - casting crowns

Somewhere between the hot and the cold
Somewhere between the new and the old
Somewhere between who I am and who I used to be
Somewhere in the middle, You'll find me

Somewhere between the wrong and the right
Somewhere between the darkness and the light
Somewhere between who I was and who You're making me
Somewhere in the middle, You'll find me

Just how close can I get, Lord, to my surrender without losing all control

Fearless warriors in a picket fence, reckless abandon wrapped in common sense
Deep water faith in the shallow end and we are caught in the middle
With eyes wide open to the differences, the God we want and the God who is
But will we trade our dreams for His or are we caught in the middle
Are we caught in the middle

Somewhere between my heart and my hands
Somewhere between my faith and my plans
Somewhere between the safety of the boat and the crashing waves

Somewhere between a whisper and a roar
Somewhere between the altar and the door
Somewhere between contented peace and always wanting more
Somewhere in the middle You'll find me

Just how close can I get, Lord, to my surrender without losing all control

Lord, I feel You in this place and I know You're by my side
Loving me even on these nights when I'm caught in the middle

SENTENCING

So for the record being suspended sucks!
But I did finish all my homework and the essay my mom wanted me to write.
Now all I have to do is figure out what I'm going to say tomorrow at the superintendent hearing.
Any ideas?:)
I just hate all of this stress!Its killing me!
Then when I think about all I'm missing and I want to have a heart attack!
Geez!:) But I will live!
Also though what does one wear to a superintendent hearing?
I kinda feel like I'm going to my death sentencing!Lol
I'm just scared.
But hey if I could wear my green shoes I'd feel a ton better but there's no way in hell my mom will let me wear shoes with holes in them to my SENTENCING(thats what I've decided to call it:).
But I guess its all for the good cause I need to look like a very upstanding citizen(which I really would like to think I am[Yes I don't always recycle geez Im sorry]).- I think I may have overkilled on the parenthesis ya think?
But hey even if I do get kicked out for the rest of the year it's all gunna be ok. I mean I could always go to summer school(dum dum duahhhhm)- Im really scared of summer school for the record!!!!
Well I think that's all for now I'm going to try to find something productive to do like fold laundry and watch friends the entire first season:)(hey if at 12 o'clock on Thursday you'd say a little preyer for me I would really appritiate it)

Today was so full of good things.